Debbie follows me on Instagram, which I have to say is a huge thrill for me and always will be, but the two of you are amazing. Emma Reese spoke with Roxane over the summer about her recent elopement with her wife, the educator, designer, podcaster, artist, and writer, Debbie Millman, reconciling Ellen Degeneres’s fall from grace, the importance of marginalized voices, and the political power of creating as a person of color.Į: Firstly, I would like to congratulate you and your now wife, Debbie Millman, on your recent elopement. The writer outlined the ways that she, and by extension all women, can (and should) contradict themselves as they form their personhood and embrace their badness in her 2014 bestselling collection of essays, Bad Feminist. Roxane Gay on Marriage, Ellen, and the Importance of Marginalized VoicesĪmerican writer, editor, professor, cultural critic, and social commentator Roxane Gay believes that women are at their best when they are bad, difficult, and heard.